My son with Autism has come quite far overall. He has made great progress with language, academics and life skills. When it comes to having a busy social life, or a group of friends, however, I know we still have far to go. Socialization opportunitiesfor children with autism can be difficult to find and, as our children get older, the idea of having your mom accompany you to activities is less then desirable!
If you are in a similar situation and wish your child had more opportunity to learn and use social skills, while having fun (instead of therapy) then you need to know about TIES – Together Including Every Student.
The TIES program was developed by two mothers that have children with a disability. The way the program works is simple but profound.
Available in some school districts throughout western NY, TIES provides 8-12th grade students training on developmental disabilities, including how having a disability may affect a person’s life, and provides insight into how children with disabilities can best be helped to achieve social independence and fulfillment.
These trained volunteers are then matched up with a child that has a disability, and together they attend activities, events or programs. These activities are in the community, completely inclusive, and are chosen by the child participant.
During the activity, the volunteer provides natural peer support to help the participant in whatever ways necessary to help them facilitate social interaction. For my son, this means the volunteer gives him conversation starters or helps him understand verbal directions.
While the participant’s seem to benefit the most, the volunteers of TIES make equal strides in their own lives, as they learn how much of a difference they can make, and how people with disabilities are more like everyone else then different. Some past TIES volunteers have chosen to enterinto special education or begin related careers!
So, now when I think about my son’s seemingly small social life, I am comforted in knowing we have a plan and the best support possible to help him make new friends and try new activities. No longer does he have to take mom with him and there are no more limitations on what he can try.
TIES continues to grow in its home region, and is, in my opinion, one of the best model programs out there.
I’m curious to know what you think about this program or how you facilitate socialization with your child. If you care to share, post your comments below or in the chat forum!
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